Monday, September 27, 2010

Daughterhood might colour what I have to say of mom, 'Manora', as she was called by Dhamayanthi aaya. Married young and widowed at the age of 36, this was woman power at its best. Manohare, that's mom, proves that women can achieve anything if they have the will power to fight against setbacks and challenges. Brought up as the privileged eldest daughter in a large family of an affuluent and upcoming industrialist, mom got into a large joint family, raised all the  children in the family , loved her in laws and was a dutiful daughter-in-law too. 
Like all of Dhamayanthi aaya's daughters, mom too has inherited a lot of aaya's practical sensibility and conviction. I remember that on many occasions she makes quick decisions which are supported by her belief in the correctness of her decisions, just like aaya.
She loves to entertain people like aaya ...(Dhamayanthi aaya never minded the floating population in her household)  and is always fond of reminding us that as the eldest daughter, she has cooked for atleast eight to ten people on ordinary days and twice that number on special occasions. She remembers a lot of Dhamayanthi aaya's cooking styles and strategies and is proof of aaya's kaimanam. 
A warrior all the way, mom accepted challenges, like daddy's death, our almost disrupted education, failure in business after dad and the loss of many privileges that she had as a married woman. Inspite of all these, she raised us boldly and fearlessly, braving many comments about her single woman status. Today, at the age of 74, she likes to move around, travel, visit people and talk about the past, present and the future. 
I see a lot of aaya in her and I'm sure that aaya is blessing this doughty daughter of hers. Love you amma for being Dhamayanthi aaya's daughter, for the indomitable spirit that you have and for the unreserved love and affection that you show all. 

Friday, September 3, 2010

The post on Chandra Maama in the Dhamayanthi group made me feel proud that I have a patron of art and lover of fine arts as my uncle. 

I remember him as Bumbai Maama in my childhood. He was then a Bombay returned engineer in textile Technology and was looked upon with awe and respect by all in the family. We kids called him Bumbaai maama and I think, we were all  especially smitten by his height, elegance, refined manners and sophistication. His straight hair and flamboyant hairstyle made him the handsome Shashi Tharoor of those days.

I still remember the visit to a club in Coimbatore, where we saw maama fraternising with a foreigner who offered us tea and cake and who asked who would act the host. We bit on the cakes or scones or whatever they were and daintily sipped tea from exquisite cups. The awe never went away, really.

Maama always expected us to be at our best, rather difficult for runny nosed kids, dirty from scuffles, fights and adventurous games. We would all run to clean ourselves the moment we saw maama. We wanted to impress him when we saw his tennis racquet and heard that he was his university player for tennis...he was our Bjorn Borg...

He narrated  tales of his escapades at college and we listened to him in open mouthed wonder. There was never a dull moment with maama around. I recall him taking Devanthi under his wings, when he realised that she had a love of photography. He gave her an old camera of his, taught her the basics and appreciated her work. This when Devanthi was probably just about twelve or so. 


Diwali, the time for bakshish and 'kumbidu panam' was a rather difficult time for us, as we strove hard to get maama to give us the one rupee or so and the hundred rupee note that he always flashed as a reason to not have small change.



Today, he stands as a pioneer in offering music, dance, harikathas and celebrity speakers to Erode connoissuers at his beautifully constructed Anjaneya Park. He takes pride in his garden and collection of exquisite flora there. He is a doyen of art appreciators at Erode and as he continues this task of giving his home town a taste of the Mumbai artistic sensibility, we are happy that as always, this maama is unique and different. God bless our maama.
 

Monday, August 16, 2010

A Sunday Meet

Just a call...and there we were, a few of us atleast, to drop in and say hi to Philip, Brinda and Geeta and perhaps, all the rest of us who hardly meet more than twice a year.
Thaatha was the happiest person to see his grandchildren around...maami had arranged for a grand lunch...it was a sort of a buffet and as any Indian lunches go - full of noise, a lot of milling around, shouts, screams and lots and lots of food...
There was chappathi, paneer kurma, briyani, raitha, obbidu, vadai, sweet babycorn bhaji, fantastic paruppu, white rice, rasam, thayir saatham, chips, yummy icecream with lots and lots of fruits...
I enjoyed the lunch and the camarederie that was there when the photos were taken. A lot of photos actually. Have infact taken one with the future astronaut Siddu, Roopa's son. He's leaving for Ohio for a year of undergraduation and a year of postgraduation. We wish him well.
Thanks to maami for bringing us together, another time.

Sunday, May 23, 2010

THAATHA - THE CLAN LEADER

The post independent period saw the rise of entrepreneurs from the city of Erode - and NMR, that's thaatha, was one of them. From a humble dyeing  mill set up in the then distant Pallam, he forayed into the area of Printing and agriculture and became successful, only by dint of his hard work, shrewd acumen and perseverance to make it big. He belongs to the lineage of ancestors who were all founding fathers of a small town called Erode and that stately heritage gave him dignity, a sense of power and authority over the rest of his peers. His golden touch made sure that everything worked well and whatever he touched turned into a goldmine. I've seen thaatha at the pinnacle of his glory, starting his day at the office in the front of the house, meeting a lot of people and then visiting the mill and the factory through the day and coming back home for lunch, siesta and a return to his office, till he came back home late in the evening. 

Today, at the age of 92, though restrained by a few ailments, he still retains that power and grip over the household. He ambulates between the hall, the room and the courtyard in between his loud and passionate supplicatory prayers to Ayyappa, his favourite diety., in the morning and evening. ( Tears come to one's eyes, when one listens to his loud, clarion call of Swamiye Saranam Iyyappa). He remains the focus of the clan, for we all come together to thaatha's house to visit him, spend time with him and to be blessed by him. 

The joy, when he sees his beloved sons and daughters, grand children and great grand children, is visible and I feel, he gains strength from his clan. The love he continues to give his daughters is amazing...he is proud of their growth, shares their sorrows and griefs and takes pleasure in the manner in which they have taken their responsibilities and families as an integral part of their lives. He loves his two sons and though he doesn't always say it out aloud, I sense the quiet feeling of satisfaction and tenderness he has for the two of them. He accepts Ilaveni maami as his eighth daughter and sees in Rajalakshmi athai, an intellectual and spiritual person with whom he shares a bond.

Yes, he is adored by his grandchildren and great grandchildren. They flock around him, because he so palpably reveals his pride that they have all shown great academic successes and that they all hold responsible positions in life. His birthdays are special, for they tell us  that the reason for the clan is there to guide and bless us. He may be impatient at times, but what is character without a few flaws? He more than makes up for it with his smiles and hearty laughter when we are all around. 

I often wonder what he must be going through...restricted  by his body, but an agile and brisk mind reliving his past,  his achievements, his failures, his glories, his present with a large clan, all of whom take pride in belonging to the clan, his success as a father, husband and grandfather. Many roles, but one person. Many years, much achieved.Much gained, some lost. Wealth, name and power now giving way to the wealth of love, the power of being loved and the name of God on his mind...this giant takes his strides , slowly and in a measured manner.

He is the Clan's father figure, loved and loving... and I remember this song I learnt at school :
"Tenderly He watches over you,
Every night, every step of the way". 

This is thaatha power, may it continue to bring us together always.

Saturday, May 1, 2010

Why I Love Coimbatore

Coimbatore is a special city for me... I share a vibe with it that equals the love I have for Salem. These are two cities I'd love to live in.

I feel my love for Coimbatore started way back when we used to holiday at CBE during the vacation in Jaya Chithi's house. These would be usually a week long holiday with Devanthi, Parthi, Kayathri, Karthikayani and usually the three of us from Salem.

There was method and organisation in the midst of all our games and fun here. Our breaksfasts were followed by washing the tables and the wash basins, since chithi always liked the house neat and clean. Her tiny kitchen in the housing unit house always held secrets to delight us - aamai vadais, athirasam, (I swear, chithi made the best, an anda full, which were cooked whenever we ran out of them, fresh and fragrant), whole palapalams cut with big oiled knives and murukkus.

Chithi gave us a taste of adult freedom with a sense of responsibility. We were encouraged to go out to R S Puram and explore the Rum and Raisin and Nutty icecreams at Richie and visit the slipper maker who fashioned slippers and shoes according to our designs ( we felt like Cinderallas). We took enjoyable, adults free walks along the GandhiPark to Maruthamalai road, enjoying the granular and creamy aavin icecream from the Dairy outlet and visited the Agricultural University Park, where huge green trees whispered in the mid morning breeze and spent time looking at the flowers and plants and running down the central walkway cutting across the middle of the Park to the entrance. 

From R S Puram we visited Aachi, Dhamayanthi aaya's loving younger sister, for whom she had a heart full of love, for she had brought up this kid sister after their mom's death. Aachi aaya and the houseful of chithis, maamas, athais and cousins welcomed us with open arms and we spent hours and hours playing carrom and Trade with Uma Chithi, Thilaga Chithi and enjoying Maami's theeni and Chandralekha athai's flawless beauty. 

I now realise that my growing years were influenced by the orderliness and discipline that was not thrust upon us, but shown to be a way of life that made it more enjoyable. The aesthetic sense of beauty and love of fine things, I think, I learnt from Jaya  Chithi. She still retains these and looks amazingly beautiful whenever she attends functions and get togethers, for she takes care of herself and wears very tastefully selected sarees.Her lesson for me has been in self-esteem, something that has stood by me all these years.

Thursday, April 8, 2010

Bharathi Chithi's Gift for us

I met Logu , Bharathi Chithappa's younger brother, and a childhood pal of ours, at Parkavi's function. He is older, sports grey hair but has lost none of his exuberance and simplicity. Meeting him brings back to my mind the most wonderful times that Chithi and Chithappa gifted us with. 

Holidays at Dhamayanthi aaya's house were never complete without a three day visit to Bharathi Chithi's house in Marapallam. Vijai and Uma were babies actually, barely 6 and 3 years old...and I still marvel  at Chithi's large heartedness in taking in a large group of kids and in giving them the best times of their lives. 

Our games at Chithi's house are unforgettable. After every breakfast, all household chores were completed and we had long hours, till 2 p.m. at least, undisturbed by elders' reminders and shouts, of games...loud, screeching and fighting games. We loved playing carrom and palanguli at Chithi's house. The game of cards, Rummy and Ass, were our favourites. Chithappa taught us how to cheat at card games, by hiding cards under the sleeves, legs and ankles and then taught us how to innocently protest whenever caught. The mischievous glint and the gentle smile in his eyes are my fond memories of chitappa. He also taught how to own up when we did something to hurt another person.
We also got unexpected treats here, as Chitappa's hotel was a landmark in Erode and what was a stay if we did not get to eat fresh, spicy, hot, fried chicken curry, mutton chops seasoned with pepper and parottas. The vegetarian cousins were once  treated to ' minu minu kolambu', which they slurped up, literally licking their chops, and chitappa stood there, grinning from ear to ear. It so happened that this Minu minu kolambu which Devanthi and Parthi loved was actually chicken gravy, minus the chicken. Oh, how we howled in laughter when this was disclosed. The minu minu kolambu still makes me smile. 

Picnics and outings were always the highlights of our visits here. The outing to Nataatheswaran temple, set in the middle of river Cauvery must be mentioned here. A taxi was called and even today, I cannot imagine how  Hari, Geeta, Devanthi, Parthi, Kayathri and Karthikayani, Viji, Uma, Mythili, Sudhakar, Logu, Chitappa, Chithi and I fitted into that white ambassador. The only thing I remember is spilling out of the ambassador on to the sands of the Cauvery. The long day in the water, throw ball in the water and at someone's suggestion, soaking the buns in water before eating (Sudhakar innocently followed Chitappa's instruction and savoured the soggy bun, as if it was the world's best bun), splashing water on one another, holding the breath under the water ( Devanthi and I were usually good at it)  till the mind and heart became charged with joyous exuberance is a gift beyond compare that we all received at Chithi's house.

Going out for movies was another joyous activity, since we all loved movies and the element of  unexpectedness that Chitappa and Chithi would bring in, by taking us out for late night shows, afternoon shows, morning shows and all. We once watched three movies in a day, moving from one theatre to another in a kudhirai vandi. They were Caravan, ( a Jeetendra, Mumtaz and Aruna Irani starrer), Kasethaan Kaduvalada ( A rollicking comedy) and Noothuku Nooru (Jaichitra, Jaishankar starrer). There was also a time when we went to a theatre to watch Raja Raja Cholan and one of the ushers took one look at the 13 odd children of all ages and with a pitiful look at Chithi told her , ' Take care of the children', cos he thought that Chithi must be a martyr to have borne so many children...

Mariamman festival in Erode is a special celebration for the whole of Erode and for us especially. Chitappa and Chithi would take us out, treat us to cotton candy, ice creams, large appalams, mulagai bhajis, karumbu juice ( as much as one wanted) and would buy small knicknacks for us...Hari and Sathy Chithi were nimble fingered when it came to hairpins and clips and ended up with a few more than they had paid for. We would loiter around till 12.30 or so and take  leisurely walks back to the house, chatting, laughing and joking.

How did Chithi and Chitappa manage us on so many occasions and give us those hours of unalloyed joy? My heart overflows with tenderness for this couple who loved us all as if we were their own children... in fact, Vijay and Uma were just part of the whole lot...My eyes are moist when I think of the love and thoughtfulness that went into making our days there as fun as they could be...Today, Chitappa and Chithi may not enjoy the good health that helped them run around, cook, serve, clean up and go out on endless outings with around 12 kids in tow, but they still make us laugh with these recollections. Amazing power of love, acceptance of all and ungrudging care was shown...God bless my Chithi and Chitappa. We love you, Chithi and Chitappa,  for all this and more.




 

Friday, March 26, 2010

Wedding Celebrations

Weddings today are two day affairs and in this mad world of rush, when even the bride and groom are in a rush and relatives all want just the barest minimum intrusion into their private world of work and home to attend weddings, weddings at Dhamayanthi house were celebrations for over a month. I remember the massive Bhavani carpet, a green affair, rolled out to cover the entire hall and the whitle bundles of kaari material put out for use as spreads, mats, etc. The entire house seemed to be filled with the fragrance of flowers as mallipoo was strung with thick strings or packed into tight strings with a needle for use in the bride's decoration. Lemon juice was always flowing from pitchers, and fragrantly spiced with cardomom and sugar. (There were no colas and fantas then). Betel leaves, betel nuts and lime paste were put out in several plates and the little ones were always waiting for an opportunity for a stolen paaku ( cows would ram their horns into our stomachs, if we ate one, cautioned elders). Buying and trying out dressess custom tailored for us was another exciting activity at these weddings.

The moment a wedding was fixed, there'd be coming and goings on endlessly as moms, aunts, uncles and cousins met and departed. I think my memories of Siva maam's wedding demand  attention because that was the most memorable wedding I have ever attended with cousins at aaya's house. While elders were making preparations to identify a suitable match for maama, it so happened that we were having our holidays and so the entire group was there having a summer vacation of the best kind.We noticed the busy activities of elders going to the temple to have a look at the girl and finalising the match with maama's concurrence. But, all this was just a part of the elders' world and we did not become a part of it, till we were allowed to go to the girl's house to give our acceptance to the match. I think the elders meant to humour us, but we took it on ourselves as a sacred duty. 

We visited Ilaveni maami's house, were welcomed as a battalion ( what a sight we must have been, as the entire lot marched into the house). There we were served sandhavai, steamed rice strings, with the usual coconut scrapings, sugar, jaggery syrup and some kuruma. We came back owing allegiance to the new maami who looked beautiful, slim, fair and was always smiling. 

Our feedback was important and everything was going on well, till one of the boys, Parthi or Hari, I don't remember which, remarked "They served us glucose powder ( referring to the powdered sugar served with the sandhavai"). That remains a joke till today. Since we were very happy with the match, we decided to do something to entertain wedding guests during the wedding. This idea was hatched by Chandra Maama and Bharathi Chitappa, who probably thought that the elders would be happy to see us only during mealtimes. 

We called for meetings with the junior kids and decided on a few items to entertain guests. Ah, what a time it turned out to be. Hari and Parthi were busy prepapring for a dance, of a' Mala, mala, marudhamali' type of those days. Geeta and Mythili, over their eternal quarrels and hair-pulling fights, were unable to decide whether to join the older or younger group. Devanthi and I prepared two or three skits, all written and directed bys us. Invitations were prepared and one evening, all the elders were invited for the show on the day preceding the engagement, I think. If my memory serves right, maami was invited and I suppose, inadvertently, we gave maama and maami, a morning of stolen glances and smiles. 

The morning was a hectic one, as we went hunting for costumes and dressed up as dancers, peasants, idiots, servants, bosses and extras. The small audience gathered mid morn and sat through our performances. Hari and Parthi's cabaret number was the most enjoyed. A skit about an idiot servant, a director wanting a scene being done in different emotions, radhai and krishna dance, quizzes and invitations to the audience to clap were the highlights of our show. 

There is still a glow when I recall those moments, not very clearly, ofcourse, but the feeling still remains, as intense today, as it was then. The joy of belonging, of a sense of appreciation, of a sense of doing something for our beloved family members, the feeling of closeness it engendered in us, all these are precious to all of us who were there that day. That is perhaps one of the reasons why Ilaveni maami is looked upon with an extra touch of fondness...for the 'glucose', for the joy she brought in and for understanding our childish pranks. 



Saturday, January 30, 2010

Work at the Dhamayanthi House

If you lived at this house, you learnt to do some hard work as well to earn your right to be here. Young or old, one had to contribute in some small way to keep the mills grinding, in a manner of speaking.

My most abiding memory of work for small hands is that of Hari and Parthi taking out a huge anda of chutney material to the pond-like aatukal set in one corner of the thatched shed. There, these two would spread their legs out and with one wise repartee after another, would endlessly grind the mix and finish the work , always making that hard task seem so effortlessly easy and fun...sometimes, like Tom Sawyer, they would fool the little ones into helping them out by saying how adventurous the job of chutney making was and the poor soul would labour at it, while the two of them had some fun. They were also responsible for the coconut sweet mix for obbidus. Churning the butter from the large thaali of thick curd and coaxing out dollops and dollops of butter with hours of rope twisting and swishing was also an experience done then and never after...

We also took turns at sweeping and cleaning the house under aaya's watchful eyes. Sometimes the swabbing was also done with painstaking exactness and precision. The rows of visible wet lines on the floor gave one a feeling of great pride, as this made aaya happier than anything else. That chore done, we also assisted maami and the chithis in washing vessels and clothes. Kala chithi and Bharathi chithi were Masters of Ceremony here. Huge containers of water would be used to clean vessels and lay them out on wooden cots to dry in the hot Erode sun. The sight of so many vessels gleaming and spotless usually had me taking a few minutes off, every now and then, to stand and admire one's handiwork.

Washing clothes was one exhilirating job. White clothes would be given utmost preference as they were washed, scrubbed and rinsed endlessly in huge aluminium pots of water to emerge pure white and shining fresh. One got a head to toe wetting as the task was enthusiastically performed, but dried out when the clothes were put out to dry. The dhothis were laid out in geometric precision on the lines and pegging them with clotheslines was another enjoyable task. Folding them in the evening and putting them in cupboards belonging to different chithis and maamas and families...no task was grudged or resented. Everything was fun, laughter and giggles.

Laying out the beds was another task invested on the young ones. Each one had their corner, their own preferred nooks in that huge house. The beds were soft, pliant and covered with soft muslin sheets or vestis. The alluring softness of these beds has never been found anywhere else. In the morning, each one had to be rolled up and taken back to the room where they had to kept neatly.

We also had to fetch cool tumblers of water or 'moru' for every visitor who came in. High or low, masters or servants, aaya always had something to offer for all.

Life at this household was fun and happiness, and the training we received was nothing done under the threat of guns or punishment, yet, the lessons have been one for a lifetime. I sometimes feel  that Hari and Parthi developed a deep culinary appreciation, only because they gathered the aromas and fragrance of the ground spices and masals at the hand grinder. Contest that, anyone?

Sunday, January 17, 2010

Games Aplenty

My Pongal holidays have come and gone in a blur of Pongal sweets, thin, runny karumbus and reality shows and talk shows in the TV. Not a hint of any physical activity, no games, not a movement away from the floor where I either reclined or lolled about chewing on something.

Holidays at Dhamayanthi aaya's house were always eagerly looked forward to and one had to have the prowess of a lion and the stamina of a camel to brave those holidays in the searing heat and games full of fun, mischief, tears, griefs and forgotten bruises. Our games were always rough there, though aaya  probably liked to believe she had us under a tight leash.

The large courtyard in the middle with its open space and the tin roofed godown adjoining the house were our playground. We played tough, brutal, runaroaund games there. There was one called 'kadala, nilama' and the one who was the catcher (decided by an unfair saat, bhoot, three or dhoni dakkara dhoiyan, or some other loony jingle learnt at school that decided the fate) would have to go around and catch the dodgy characters who would jump from nilam to kadal...the nilam was the hard concrete floor of the courtyard and the kadal would be the steps leading to the upper floor. Pony tails and plaited hair would all come undone and even the touch of one's ribbon would make one the unfortunate catcher next. One may spend rounds trying to gasp one's breath out to catch  the agile ones..not an easy task.  We usually had the little ones become the catcher by cheating on the saat,boot, three thing. Hari and Parthi were notorious, but I like to believe that all of us cheated the little ones to have fun at their expense. The moment the game began, elders would rush in to pull the dried clothes off the clothesline. Clothes were very important and darn if the kids caught their hair or their neck in the line.

Hide and seek was easily our favourite, because that house had a million secret corners. The washplace in the kitchen, the extra bathrooms (in between the wooden stacks and smelly drying kitchen clothes), the palam room, the doors ( you could hide an elephant behind them) sometimes, even the toilet. Hah...they caused some anxious moments for those who came there in a hurry and caught their breaths, not at the smell, but at the sight of a small body hurtling past them from the toilets. The front hall had a lovely, rangoon bamboo woven two seater, under which one could hide and sometimes, the game might have even moved on to the next round and one would lie waiting for the catcher, never mind if it was the next catcher....I remember that the only place taboo for us all was the small verandha upstairs which opened to the upstairs hall...we believed there was a ghost and no one was brave enough to dare it. Probably the two boys, Parthi and Hari did in a show of dare devilry...but, it was normally not chosen, because the catcher did not want to come there and so the fun was lost. The best part of the game was the resounding slap one would receive on the back accompanied by a frightening yell of 'Ice Pass/Eyes Pass??' that indicated that the one hiding was safe, out of reach of the seeker.

Another game was the water splash game played, normally when aaya went out shopping. We would climb the tin roof of the godown and walk along the precipitious edge along the courtyard wall. It was a long drop and  any misstep might mean danger and trouble - aaya was good at tongue lashing and yelling at us for making  her break her promise to her daughters and sons that we would be cared for and that we would be guarded against any fractures and hospitalisation during the holidays. But, the sense of challenge in that was compounded by the blast of water that would be directed at us from the washbasin tap in the courtyard. It was not a game for children alone...Siva maama and Kala chithi would join us with a warning that not a word was to be breathed when aaya returned. The sense of urgency and fun filled guilt with which we would dry our clothes and put everything in place the moment the tracker in the front hall rushed in to tell us that aaya was just around the corner in the kudhirai vandi exceeded the speed of a typhoon.

Not to be forgotten is the tent pitching atop the small bathoom at the backyard near the wash-stone and the nandiyavattai trees. We'd imagine ourselves as adventurers in the fashion of Enid Blyton characters and haul five to six bedsheets ( I remember a distinctly blue, ribbed one) on to the rooftop. There with the help of some wooden poles stolen from the room below, we would tie them together and spread the bedsheets over them as a sort of a roof. Soem fruits or theeni would be taken and hours spent giggling, laughing, fighting and frightening the little one away with threats and horror faces. We would climb down , not when the sun went down, but when the next door ladies would catch us peeping at them as they were about to use the loo. We'd come screaming down with ghoulish delight at having caught somebody with their pants down literally ...

Another favourite was playing hide and seek in a dark room. We would all stream into  the room piled with beds, matresses and pillows, close all the windows and block out even the smallest streak of light with cloth, switch off the light and choose a hiding place. The choking heat inside that room, the frightening feel of being alone in the dark, hoping for a small whisper or the slightest sound...while groping around with outstretched hands in that darkest of dark black engulfing one was an awesome game that helped dispel our fears of the dark and loneliness. The screams emerging from there frightened only those inside, because those outside could not hear anything from behind those locked doors and windows.

Upstairs, the most daring game was tying a frayed thayir kadayum rope from one window to another across the hall and trying to trapeze walk on it...Devanthi and I were always at it, while Hari and Parthi were always at tugging the rope and pulling us down. A job they were experts at.

Most of the kids in the clan were wiry, strong and alert then. The games made us so...I believe that while the battle of the bulge is losing its grip on us now, we were able to put it off for quite a long time, because of the games we played in our childhood. Some of our elders joined in the fun and that made it all so legitimate fun even when we were playing in forbidden areas. Thanks to Siva maama, Kala, Bharathi and Sathi chithis for joining us in our mad capers. I also wonder why aaya did not shout at us all the time, but let us have our fun, so long as we didn't break a limb or two? Was it because she was a lover of sports herself, as she told us once...she would swim from one bank of Cauvery to the other at Kodumudi, her home town and swing from the wooden rafters in her house even while looking after her siblings as a loving sister?

Saturday, January 2, 2010

More Food fun at the House - Fruits

Food was never scarce at this household; nor was it wasted. Aaya always made sure that everything bought for the kitchen was monitored and found acceptable.

She made weekly trips to the market and if we were good, we accompanied her on these market trips. The Kudhirai vandi would be called and aaya, one or two of us and a whole lot of bags would go in. The trip was short and took us to the vegetable market, much like the ulavar sandhais you see nowadays. There, ayah selected the freshest greens, greenest vegetables, lushest tomatoes, biggest potatoes and brought them back in big cloth bags.

On arrival at the house, ayah took them to the courtyard, took out her small cot, filled water in a knee high bucket, wash the vegetables in streaming water and sort them out in small piles. We would carry them to the kitchen to maami or whoever was in charge and then they were stored in small baskets. Imagine feeding a small army of around ten to twelve people everyday!

Fruits, like mondampalam, kalkandu vazhalai, malai palam and the ever famous rasthali were her favourites among bananas. The mondampalam is a big plaintain fruit and small stomachs could never manage one full fruit, so we invariably got small two to three inch long cut pieces. We usually were trained to peel away the thick underskin of the fruit. It was sticky, but tasty and those of us who have had this training, till date relish this and retain this habit, much to the confoundment of the newcomers in the family.

Thaatha's favourites were the kalkandu vazhai and the malai palam...green, sweet and much sought after.

While these three varieties were rationed out, the rasthali was always available for hungry stomachs and greedy mouths. It would be bought in a huge bunch, proabably with fifty or sixty palams and was hung in the small room near aaya's cot. It was a favourite spot when one played hide and seek, because while waiting to be found out, one could always do it in quite contentment, on a banana high.

Aayah also bought water melons, sweet melons, sakkaravalli kilangu, kutchi kilangu ( which is usually the fat kilangu),panang kilangu, nungu and the nungu palam. Let me not forget the palapalams.

Water melon was cut into big pieces and shared out with all. Thaatha always had it, in small, delicately cut pieces, served in a beautiful saucer with a small spoon to eat with. Sweet melons were usually crushed with the fingers, sugar added to it and served in dripping consistency. Thaatha did not like this messy concotion and I remember he liked them diced, sugared and served.

Sakkaraivalli kilangu was boiled, the brown skin removed and the boiled kilangu mixed with fresh ghee and sugar and eaten in tight balls, licked one lick at a time. Kutchi kilangu was again boiled and served with sugar.

Nungu was available in straight our of bunches with the three nungus in the fruit shell, ready to be scooped out, licked, slurped and swallowed sometimes whole. Thaatha had it flavoured with elaichi and sugar, refrigerated and served. Nungu palam was the overripe nungu smoked and delicately charred on the outside and beautifully golden yellow inside. It had to be pulled out with the teeth and the stringy bits chewed and chewed , till the golden juice flowed into and out of the mouth. That was a cultivated taste, not popular with many in the family.

Panang Kilangu was the brown, chewey and succulent kilangu boiled into a sweetness that needed no sugar or sweetners

 As you can see, this is perhaps why so many in the family have a sweet tooth. If there was nothing sweet, there was always big, chunky white crystal kalkandu, or the dark brown, native karrupatti vellam, on which one could suck for an hour atleast.

Palapalam was a hot favourite in summer along with magoes. It was always there in a pale yellow or richly dark yellow colour in basins filled with these cholais, as they were called. We loved eating them as they were, inspite of aayah's warnings about stomach cramps, because it was a 'choodu' food. For thaatha, it was always served with generous doses of honey which smelt like roses and mango blossoms, since they were from the hives in the thottam.

Mangoes also were there, laid out in sack cloths in small rows and post lunch would always be looked forward to, becuase Chandra maama and the chithis made it a fetish practice of cutting the peel with sharp knives that left behind just a golden globe in the hand and an extraordinarily long rind of the fruit that twirled like a ribbon. Thenceforth, it would be cut and served with honey.

I also distinctly remember them taking out a whole mango, and kneading it into a juicy fruit, which would be punched open at the top and the juicy pulp drunk straight from the skin.

For us kids, there was also candied nellikai stored in the netted cupboard. Fresh small gooseberries were there for those wanted something strong, hot and perky. With salted chilli powder that was a perfect foil to all the sweet things that one fed on after lunch.  

I realise now that it was a house of fullness and choicest fruits. It was a house of discerning tastes, and one still sees them in the chithis and maamas. They truly deserve to say, ' Antha kaalathile...' and not be wrong by a mile. God bless the elders who made such an overwhelming memory of smells, tastes and textures, alive and rich.