Sunday, January 16, 2011

Empty Nest Syndrome

The Dhamayanthi clan sees its young people spreading their wings and flying far and away. Astro Sidhu, Roopa's son left for Dayton for his higher studies last week. 
Come to think of it, the exodus started a long time ago...with Kala Chithi and Chitappa migrating to the US in the 70s. So, Brindha and Karthik are literally 'sons of the US soil'. 
Then followed Kayathri and Karthikayani, who left India to pursue their higher studies. Now, they visit India once in a few years. Their children are also rooted in the US. 
 Vijay left India to work at Caterpillar and has come back to India for a few years.  
Then, Shivi went to the US and almost effectively has settled there. Then, Krithi sojourned at Melbourne; however, she returned home to be closer to Sathy Chithy and Chitappa. Shyam left for the Australian soil and has almost become a 'son of the soil', preferring to live there for atleast another fifteen years. 
Geeta has almost become a foreigner with her professional assignments in different countries in the past ten years. 
How has the clan hanlded these changes? Has it become a victim of the empty nest syndrome? 
One thing I'm glad about is the clan's ability to handle the  syndrome, by accepting these changes as part and parcel of life. We take it with composure; the nest is never empty, because the elders always have other younger ones to tangibly love and shower affection on. The space is always filled with those around us. Family get togethers are looked forward to. Respect for the decision of the young migrants has been accepted atoically, without bitterness and remorse. I feel that attitude abundantly blesses the ones who've left the nest and makes them come back, secure in the knowledge that the hearts of those in the clan are always loving and warm to them. 
 

3 comments:

  1. I just want to say I LOVE reading your blog. It feels so much like growing up with you around.

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  2. Thanks a lot, Krithi kannu. Am I glad to have so many of you young people around. I find it hard to believe that I've grown old - I'm 51 years old, but seeing you all around, I still feel like a kid. Thanks for the joy I get from my young cousins.

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  3. I've left out the most brilliant of us all - our own young Logesh, the scientist, the brain, the philosopher who is now in the US on research. I would never have imagined that this little boy would be able to go out and manage on his own. But, he does! And, that is an amazing fact.

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